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Worth Fighting For

Wed, July 5, 2017 Published by

Growing up, Independence Day was one of my favorite holidays. I remember running around with my cousins in our back yard, sparklers in our hands, with our parents watching us as they conversed about whatever. Towards the end of the night we’d gaze at the dark sky as the fireworks lit up the quiet night. At the time, that’s what the holiday was for me, a time to have fun with my family. However, I didn’t understand what sacrifices had to be made for us to have those times of solace.

As the years have passed, we, as a country, have largely forgotten what the true meaning of every holiday stands for. In the case of Independence Day, we often see fireworks, barbeques, and carnivals flooding the environment. However, at its core, these services have very little to do with the holiday. Independence Day is about our individuality as a nation. This holiday is a reminder to its citizens of the freedom we sought during its founding. Thus, in celebrating this holiday we specifically remember those who fought, and continue to fight, for that peace.

The community of residents here at Beatitudes are among the many who faced such challenges and helped pave the way for my generation to be so privileged. It’s because of your passion and sacrifice that I’ve never had to worry about being drafted for war, I can go to any school I choose, I’m not segregated in any location I enter and I can sleep at night knowing I’m safe. These are such luxuries that we often take for granted. Somewhere, in another country, there’s an individual who’s in constant fear of being taken away from his family. Constant fighting is erupting outside his home and he doesn’t know how much longer they will be safe. We have it lucky here in America and we owe a great deal of that to our military forces.

I have several friends and family in the military, some have seen combat. When asked why they joined, they all give a similar answer which related to protecting something they cherished. This can be related to last week’s main article written by the late Don Fausel. He spoke of the term “ikigai” and its meaning being your sense of purpose in life. For these individuals, and I’m certain for many others, they share the same feeling. As a country, we’ve depended on our soldiers for so long to keep us safe. Likewise, they wake up every morning ready to fight for those who can’t fight for themselves, all while fighting for their own lives.

For almost a month, the 3rd floor of the Plaza South Lounge was decorated with memorabilia from almost 20 residents here on campus from their time in service. Purple Hearts, Medals of Honor and Silver Stars garnished the room as you contemplated, “what’s worth fighting for” in your own life? Once again, a huge thank you to all the veterans and current serving military forces. You do not receive enough praise and we owe a great deal to you. You fight for our freedom and keep us safe. My prayers are with you. God Bless.

What’s Your Ikigai?

Mon, June 26, 2017 Published by

Donald F. Fausel
Nov. 22, 1929 – June 12, 2017

For this article, I’d like to share one written by Dr. Don Fausel, one of our residents who passed away last week.  Don was a man of great insight and wisdom which you will find as you read his thoughts on “What’s Your Ikigai?”—Peggy R.

“It’s never been easy to be a human being! We have always had to wrestle with strong and painful fears. Now, if we face ourselves honestly, or if we merely eavesdrop on the secret murmurings of our heart, isn’t this what we discover—that one of our basic fears, the fear beneath many fears, is the dread of being nothing, of having no real importance, no lasting worth, no purpose in life.  It is precisely to this fear of being nobody, having no worth, that our Judeo-Christian-Humanitarian ethic reminds us that our basic value is not something we achieve in competition with everyone else, but something we gratefully accept along with everyone else. We need not become important, we are important. We need not become somebody, we are somebody. No matter what others may say or think about us, or do to us, we are somebody.

As we grow older and become less able to function physically or mentally as we did in our younger years, we need to remind ourselves, that we are still somebody, with the same dignity and worth, with the same God-given inalienable rights. Sometimes, when we’re not able to do a lot of the things we used to do, when our body is failing us and our short term memory is not as good as our long term memory, it’s hard for us to accept the fact that we are somebody worthwhile. That’s why it’s particularly important for us Elders to periodically ask ourselves, what is my purpose in life?

Several years ago, I discovered a Japanese word that captures the importance of having a positive attitude and purpose in our life. The word is Ikigai, (pronounced ee-ki-guy) the Japanese word used to describe why I get up in the morning, what my sense of purpose is. I love the word Ikigai! I like saying it! I like writing it! Ikigai, Ikigai! I think it was the beginning of my interest in happiness. I realized if you don’t have an Ikigai, you’re not going to be happy. I was even more impressed with the origin of the word and its application for us elders. Researchers have identified what they call Blue Zones. These are areas throughout the world with a high percentage of centenarians; places where people enjoy remarkably long full lives. Their lives are not only longer, but physically and mentally, they are more active than elders in other areas of the world. National Geographic’s, Dan Buettner, has traveled the globe to uncover the best strategies for longevity found in these Blue Zones. One of those areas is the Japanese island of Okinawa. It was there that he discovered that one of the characteristics for a long healthy life was having an Ikigai. To a resident of Okinawa, Ikigai can be anything from tending their vegetable garden, taking care of great grandchildren, to walking and exercising every day. Whatever it is that motivated them to remain involved, they give credit to their Ikigai. After years of research Dan Buettner concludes:

“One of the biggest revolutions in thought in our time is the changing of emphasis from physical health to mental health in connection to longevity. The effects of negative stress and ‘inflammation’ are cited more and more frequently as the cause of early death and lowered quality of life. One of the most important methods for counteracting that is Ikigai, a sense of purpose. … Ikigai is something that brings joy and contentment. It fills a person with resolve and a sense of satisfaction in what they are doing. Most of all, it brings happiness.”

In our own way, we need to seriously consider identifying our own Ikigai. We need to know and follow our values, passions and talents–and to share them by example, on a regular basis. It might be by living our lives, with our physical and mental restrictions, as a legacy for our grandchildren or great grandchildren, or showing compassion for those in need, who are less fortunate than we are. Whatever we choose to do, it’s our Ikigai. So what is it that gives your life a sense of worth? What gets you out of bed in the morning? Since I retired, my major Ikigai for the past five years or so has been writing. To paraphrase the French philosopher, Descartes, “I write, therefore I am!” What’s your Ikigai?